Why You Must At Least Once in A While Blame It on You!

 

“That you are a natural creation whose functional abilities are driven by an endless supply of non-exhaustive power, which is accessible to you anytime for use as you desire, is the greatest and priceless gift you can ever be thankful enough for.  Whether or not you see it this way, and you don’t give this gift top priority in your life, nor resolve to be ever grateful for such an offer and decide to just remain indifferent to it and get captivated by your other excitable desires in life, it’s all your choices.  Similarly, your ability to transform yourself into a well-organised and functional human system, capable of drawing from your endless supply of power, to manifest the exact experience of life you desire, is totally under your control and your power to choose.  Therefore, when life doesn’t happen for you as per your desires, it isn’t much someone else’s fault than it is yours.  As the sole leader, manager, driver, workforce, visionary etc., of your life and its mission, you’re the key accountable and responsible person. Hence, if there’s any right person to take the blame from the onset, for not getting your life where you want it to be, it must be you.  To date, more than any other time before in human life, the learning process has become widely accessible to most, and such presenting an opportunity for us all to gain much enlightenment and insight to enhance our experiences of life.  When it comes to your lack of success in life therefore you cannot just intransigently blame it on others.  You certainly must at least once in a while interrogate yourself about it”

 

Why You Must At Least Once in A While Blame It on You >>

 

You and I are naturally built to function the same way, and hence we have the ability to reach any perceived highest level of success in life.  Nevertheless, we each have a plethora of desires, interest, wishes etc., which play a key role to determine the outcome of what ultimately transpires in our individual lives.  Because each person e.g. you, me etc., has their own preferred experience of life, whatever specific acts needed to make such a reality must be driven by the holder of such preferences i.e. you, me etc.  This is not something that can be delegated to others nor a cause for reason to blame anyone else than you as the leader of all things about your life.  To appreciate better why you must make it a habit to question yourself, than maybe create endless conflicts with others through blame, here’s a non-exhaustive short list of some food for thought to ponder over:

 

1.      Your mind is your own!

 

You have a great and limitless mind that allows you to think, incubate, and grow thoughts and ideas for living a greatly inspired and fulfilling life.  This mind is totally under your control and no one else can influence it otherwise, except with your permission.  This means, only you get to choose what to think and what not to think at any given time.  There’s however a seemingly irresistible tendency by many of us to allow our mental space to operate as a rental space for non-productive thoughts and ideas, including those of others.  Sometimes we use this as an excuse to avoid doing what is truly needed, as in procrastination, because it may give us a sense that we are mentally productive or functional.  Other times we suffocate our minds with frustrating thoughts about those we either are conflicted with, or those we view as the cause of our failure to make advances in life.  Most such non-productive and limiting thoughts only serve to keep you stuck and without much possibility to make conscious contact with your own thoughts for a better future.  The good news though is that you have control over what you must think.  Such is the turning point to getting your life ahead and avoid brewing-up conflicts with others through apportioning blame.  If you don’t allow yourself to see this turning point and breakthrough, you’re certainly to blame.     

 

2.      The decisions on choices before you are all yours!

 

As the leader of your life, you have the natural authority to make decisions on choices that come before you in all your daily life engagements.   Equally, except for crimes against humanity, where you maybe forcefully caused to make decisions that you would not voluntarily make, you’re accountable for the outcomes emanating from all your decisions.  Consequently, laying a blame on others for outcomes relating to your own decisions and choices, which failed to add value to your life, can never serve any purpose but create conflict.  If there is any one person you must complain to about this, it must be you.  So, rather than blame others, question yourself.   

 

3.      Nature is forever giving!

 

You may have come across the saying that “the best things in life are free”, and perhaps wondered what that is all about, particularly if you’re one of those always on the run, struggling to make ends meet.  My understanding of this is in the context of vital nature’s provisions, such as rain, sunlight, inhalation etc., which are priceless and beyond any measure of human capability.  Nature provides these endlessly and effortlessly, even though many of us are fixated on other frustratingly overwhelming ‘things’, which are not necessarily ‘best things’, and neither are they readily available nor even beyond human capability.  The learning process is one such natural gift or ‘best thing’ provided to ensure human effectiveness in life.  You were meant to lean on the learning process to explore, learn, understand, and apply your knowledge and wisdom to make life happen for you as desired.  You are an embodiment of the power of natural creation.  So, question yourself rather than blame anyone, why you don’t learn how to utilise your power to make life happen for you.   

      

4.      What is anyone else supposed to do?

 

You know that everyone else is here on a mission to make the most out of the experience of life.  Like you, everyone has their own vision or the future they desire to live and experience.  Equally, everyone has their own aspirations, desires, interests, preferences etc.  Life demands that every individual, inclusive of you, to rise each day and lead, manage, and drive their lives ahead.  This leaves very little to no possibility for anyone to become a co-driver in the journey of your life, without risking abandoning their own journey.  Your best bet is to ask for an assist, like a little push to give you that initial momentum you need to take off.  Surely, you must step up for yourself and pick the correct course to your vision, as no one else can guess where you’re headed.  So, blaming others who don’t know where you are headed isn’t at all helpful.  Be bold and question yourself, “what exactly am I up to in this life?”.

 

5.      It’s you who is responsible and must be accountable!

 

This priceless gift i.e. the opportunity provided for you to experience the process of life here on Earth, is yours, and everyone else has theirs.  You are expected to play the lead role to ensure you make the most out of it.  You are responsible for making good out of your life, and you equally are accountable for any lack of satisfactory outcomes.  This is because, like all other humans, you are naturally adequately empowered to become who you desire to be.  Maybe you haven’t taken a decision yet to map out what you truly intend to make out of your life, and for that life for you possibly lacks enthusiasm to get anywhere.  However, whatever progress or lack of, in your journey of life, you are totally responsible and accountable.  No other person deserves any greater level of blame than you.  Your next step is your key responsibility, and entails getting back to learning ways so you can claim total ownership of your life.

 

Certainly, getting things done to make life happen for you can only begin with you being intentional about it.  You’re more likely to succeed if you choose to seek for help from others than blame them.  If you get a sense your life isn’t making any advances, it’s a sign you ought to question yourself why so.  Make questioning yourself more habitual than the extent at which you blame others.  It’s a new beginning, use the opportunity.

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 Do you want better in life? Have you any desires to accomplish and feel fulfilled in your experience of life?  If so, let’s go together and reach far!  Please share your views in the comments section if you can.  Long live to you!

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More About Dr. Ben Modie

The core mission of Dr. Ben Modie is to provide motivational education on personal development.  This is with the aim to inspire others to embrace the learning process, so they can develop and grow themselves to live a structured life that is anchored on personal strategic foundations, such as purpose, mission, and vision.  The ultimate goal is to foster a long-term, effective, and fulfilling life experience.

 

Through his life project the Centre for Knowledge (CfK), extracted from a personal strategic plan, Dr. Ben Modie creates motivational content that is provided through presentations, seminars, and workshops at schools, work organisations, and public places.  In addition, Dr. Ben Modie also makes available educational content through books, social media, and blog posts.  

 

For more on Dr. Ben Modie you can get in touch through email at tesbnm@gmail.com or modieb@cfkmotivation.com.  Alternatively, you can search social media @Benson Modie.