How To Make Sure Life Happens For You

 

"You know, it’s not unusual to experience moments of great believe and zeal about yourself, like for example, landing a job after a long search, or starting your own family, or at the beginning of a new year, following a period of rest and rejuvenation etc.   These are moments when you are at the peak or crest of your thoughts of optimism.  In most cases it’s because you hold tight to the believe or principle that things do get better in life, which is true in the sense where you’ll be giving assurance to put-in effort to influence better results, going forward.  So, your mental space then hosts hopeful and exciting thoughts about possibilities for the future, and these giving you an ambience of feeling well organised and raring to go.  However, as the days, weeks, and months goes by, unfortunately, as you may possibly have experienced or noticed in the past, the early enthusiasm and optimism slowly drops, and eventually dissipates.  When this happens your experience of life simply reverts to where you were earlier, when you didn’t feel any sense of good or progress, but only a sense of stagnation.  Once you get bottled up like this, your life ceases to happen for you as you desire, and your time on Earth swiftly wastes away uneventfully.  The truth though is that you and I are forever wired for success, and there’s always a way to bounce back and make headways.  Would you believe it if I told you that, in most cases, under normal circumstances, when life doesn’t happen for you as you desire, you’re the missing link?  Maybe? You don’t know?"  

 

How To Make Sure Life Happens for You

           

To be successful and live a fulfilling life experience, you must envision and then create the future you desire.  Only you can figure out the exact future you desire to live and experience.  This is because, though there might be some overlaps to some extent, the specifics of your aspirations, desires, interests, preferences, wishes etc., are unique.  Hence, to truly make this a reality, you must step up to make it happen. You cannot just take what others are creating, for themselves, and make it the future you desire, and expect that it will fulfil your aspirations for living a greatly inspired life experience.

 

What really makes your life to not happen as you desire is because you’re not active at the causative end of things.  Though you may be enthusiastic, excited, and optimistic about the kind of life experience you want, much of the results and outcomes anticipated are tied to what you expect others to do.  So, when you get to meet challenges and obstacles along the way, the tendency is to heavily rely on others than getting yourself to be the main act.  When others don’t respond, timeously as is critical for you, or they don’t respond at all, you lose your moment to get life happening, or you simply get stuck, maybe indefinitely, and never get to meet your own expectations about a greatly fulfilling life.

 

You may be asking now, “just how do I begin to plant a seed, in my mind, that’ll make sure life happens for me?”  A great question to add to your mental space, indeed.  I would say, like in the title of one of my books, “train your mind to think positive”, as part of your early thoughts to revive your true nature, think this way:

 

Naturally, you are already empowered to take charge of your life, to enable you to create the future you desire to live and experience.  Firstly, you’ve got to be your own leader, and as well the driver of your life, on a daily basis, to ensure you maintain both the direction and the momentum you need to reach for the future you desire.  Secondly, and most importantly, you’ve got to prioritize self-education on your personal development and growth, so you’re better placed to know what matters most to get your life there.  In addition, you’re naturally expected to have your own personal organisational setting or plan to ensure you are effective at what you do to manifest your desires.  All this, you can trust in the learning process, but you must step up for you.     

 

Perhaps, most importantly, you must believe that you can get better and do better than you are now.  Your growth is ever critical to your success, and equally defines your value in life.  The provision of a new beginning, like a new day, week, month, or a new year, could be that moment when you need to confirm your relevance to life, going into the far future, by securing a spot in the team of those that nature depends on to make life happen.  To become a key contributor, in life, now and ahead, and in any enhanced relevant way, requires that you continue to escalate your own personal development and self-growth. 

 

If you don’t continue to grow yourself, this will limit your ability to make success, and equally your relevance to life will begin to dwindle.  I’m reminded here, of words below, which used to be commonly shared by one of the greatest wisdom teachers to ever grace human life on earth, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.  These words of wisdom catapulted me further along my own path of personal development and growth, and I hope they get you inspired too, enough to get you on the move.  Here they are:

“The difference between a flower that is dead and one that is living, is that the one that’s living is growing”

So, you want to make sure that you keep on growing to create a sense of being lively, and happily living each moment of your gift of life.  Now, the catch phrase I would like to throw at you, with the hope you’ll respond positively is, “allow yourself”.  You have endless power within, so, allow yourself to draw from it to create the future you desire.  Allow yourself to challenge you to step up and reach for the future you desire.  If not you, then who?

 

At this point I would like to give you a push to set you on a trajectory, in the direction of the future you desire.  Take it as your big challenge of the present moment, in a way, the beginning of something big that’ll make life truly happen for you.  It’s an 8 tasks challenge termed “8 ways to begin making life happen for you”.  This is basically about mental reorientation and practical reorganization, regarding, for example, what matters most for you and how you can organize for engagement and success.

 

8 Ways to Begin Making Life Happen for You!

 

Task 1

Practice seeing yourself as an entity with a mission to fulfil!

 

Make effort to regularly single yourself out from the rest of your team in life and imagine yourself as a significant and critical component of society, with a specific role to play every day, which no one else but you, were created to do.  As you get up each morning, figure out at least one thing you must do to make a difference in life, as part of your role in society, at home, at work etc.  This will give you a sense of purposefulness, and hence make your life feel a meaningful, worthy, and enjoyable venture.

 

Task 2

Consider your life a special project to undertake and accomplish successfully!

     

See a larger picture in terms of your mission in life and imagine yourself as a project that began with your conception, followed by your physical, then mental and skills development etc., to a well-established contributor ready to serve life in a big way.  This will really make you feel an important, and even indispensable, component of the jigsaw puzzle of human life on Earth, and ultimately inflate that sense of purposefulness and meaningfulness in your life.   

 

Task 3

Make learning your partner to help you figure out what it takes to get there!

 

Appreciate the fact that you must take a series of steps to advance from where you are now and get to the future you desire to live and experience.   Whatever your desires about living a successful and greatly fulfilling life experience, look around and learn from the experiences of those who are accomplished.  So, make it a habit to learn something new each day to enhance your level of understanding, on what you need to do.  Doing so will boost your confidence to act and make life happen for you. 

 

Task 4

See what it takes in you!

 

You already have what it takes.  You were created with all the necessary qualities for you to develop and grow into the kind of successful person you would like to be.  For each day of your life, make it a deliberate act to recognise the power you have within, or the power that you are, whichever way you comprehend your natural-self, and see that as your key resource, readily available to tap from and build the life you want.  Avoid giving away your power by declaring yourself inadequate, uneducated etc., and instead choosing to heavily rely on others to make life happen for you.  See the natural ability and potential you have, to transform yourself and become better at influencing your life as you want, so you can yield the results or outcomes you desire.  As you touch base with what it takes, that’s already in you, the peak of your curve of self-belief will rise sky-high.   

 

 

Task 5

Act on what it takes!

 

Once you have touched base with your inner abilities and the potential you host within, what follows must be a deliberate attempt to ready yourself for a massive transition, by getting your power set for action.  It maybe you need to reorganize first your mental space, by getting rid of clutter, to accommodate only the forward-looking thoughts.  This way will reduce any mental fatigue or overwhelm, and help you think clearly, as you figure out your next course of action.  You may also, at this stage, perhaps be needing to learn some specific ways that’ll help you to get going, and hence, you’ll be looking to engage your abilities to transform the potential you have into some very important actionable skills you must have.  This will get you ready to transform your power into efforts and create the results or outcomes you want.

    

Task 6

Single out what matters most in your life!

 

Not all that you regularly do, or spend your efforts, time, and money on, has value to make life happen for you in a more satisfying, lengthy, and fulfilling way.  Life truly begins to happen when you create clarity about the exact future you desire to live and experience.  It’s at that point when you begin to appreciate and understand the value of a personal vision, or maybe as many prefer to label it, a dream of the future desired, and you begin to create a vision board, or write your vision statement.  Once you have built clarity about the future you desire, then it becomes easy for you to pick the right tasks to spend your resources on.  Perhaps more importantly, than just creating a vision board or vision statement, you’re far much better defining what you stand for in life, as an individual.  This calls for the documentation of your purpose or reason for being.  Beyond this, you’ll be all set to get life happening your way, in terms of the direction you are heading, as well as the specific tasks you must engage your resources on to get you there.

 

Task 7

Develop a personal organizational and self-management system!

 

Now, since Task 1 of this challenge, where you made sure to present yourself to life as an entity with a mission to fulfil and followed that up with declaring your life as a special project that must be fully lived to completion, you went on to partner-up with the learning process.  In addition, you’ve had a peep into what you already have within and have made the effort to ready yourself for getting your life moving forward.  Not only that, but you have also created clarity about where you want to go and made it easy to pick on the right tasks for getting you there. 

 

What now remains is to ensure that you are well organised to get yourself acting, so you can make the journey to your vision.  What next then, you may wonder?  Well, you must develop and document a personal organisational and management system, which when you look at, daily, will respond by saying something like, “this is what you stand for, you have a mission to fulfil, your entire life is a project, this is where you are headed, and today’s task is this, as an example”!  You’ll decide what shape it takes, maybe a little written summary, a chart, a recording, whatever appeals to you, but something that will remind you every moment how you ought to be engaging to make life happen for you.  Something that’ll say to you “no, you can’t spend your money, time, or efforts this way, it certainly won’t get you there, because it’s not aligned to your purpose, or your vision is in the opposite direction”.  Setting yourself this way shows intent about taking charge of your life and forms the early stages in getting your life structured for effective living.  This personal organisational and self-management system is the precursor to building a personal strategic plan, which is the ultimate key indicator to getting full control of your life.

 

Task 8

Engage life as per your management system!

 

This is where life happens. You get up each morning, and you do as your personal organizational and self-management system guides.  Surely, being a new approach, it certainly will be challenging, but so is every other way of life you have had to learn.  You’ll fall, but you must get up.  There’ll be many barriers along the way, but just treat them as a test for your resilience and tenacity.  Ultimately, things will work out, because things do indeed get better if you commit to making the necessary efforts.  

 

P.S.  Thank you so much for reading this all the way.  Remember, all great achievements are driven by the learning process, which is when you gain knowledge and skills that you need to transform your desires into reality.  As the wise from yesteryear taught, things don’t just happen, but you must make them do.  The same applies to your life, and I trust you made some few value picks to get your own life happening as you desire.

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 Do you want better in life? Have you any desires to accomplish and feel fulfilled in your experience of life?  If so, let’s go together and reach far!  Please share your views in the comments section if you can.  Long live to you!

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More About Dr. Ben Modie

The core mission of Dr. Ben Modie is to provide motivational education on personal development.  This is with the aim to inspire others to embrace the learning process, so they can develop and grow themselves to live a structured life that is anchored on personal strategic foundations, such as purpose, mission, and vision.  The ultimate goal is to foster a long-term, effective, and fulfilling life experience.

 

Through his life project the Centre for Knowledge (CfK), extracted from a personal strategic plan, Dr. Ben Modie creates motivational content that is provided through presentations, seminars, and workshops at schools, work organisations, and public places.  In addition, Dr. Ben Modie also makes available educational content through books, social media, and blog posts.  

 

For more on Dr. Ben Modie you can get in touch through email at tesbnm@gmail.com or modieb@cfkmotivation.com.  Alternatively, you can search social media @Benson Modie.